Before I had come to terms with this idea, I would always be too stressed out for my own good because something so small even would not be to my liking or I would hold it against myself longer than I should have. Now that I have learned to compromise with myself and let go, it makes me feel more at peace and more human, IT IS OKAY to make mistakes and fail.
School is such a BIG part of my life that there are days that school is the only thing I breathe, I love my major, psychology, because I would like to be able to truly help people one day in this field. Some may wonder why I am studying psychology after reading the previous blog because it seems that I may be complaining about people when psychology is about accepting and helping that person first above everything. But that is another great thing about learning to let go, I have learned to SEPERATE what I do and who I am. For example, I can have my opinions about other people, or how I feel but if I have to be professional (psychology wise) I would never be biased towards that person, because the person always come first. If I have something against people who drink and drive or alcoholics in general, and if I was studying a case about an alcoholic, or hypothetically helping someone who was an alcoholic, I would not let my opinion judge how I help that person because there may be an underlying issue why that person even drinks in the first place and the only thing that would matter would be helping that person with the their alcohol problem if that was the case being.
I have failed in some areas of not always doing right with work, school, friends, and even family, but I have been able now to honestly look back and learn from my mistakes. For instance, if I snapped at a family member because I was having a bad day, or treated them poorly, or hurt their feelings just because I was having a bad day in the past, I can look back on that moment and remember what happened which can help allow me to take a deep breath and remember how that person would feel if I did snap at them, etc.
From being able to let go and accept that I can't do everything right or be right about everything is helping me to grow a bit as a person, become a better person, and to learn a bit more. Does anyone else feel like this or am I the only one who is trying to improve and not control all the little things in their life? :D
I'm a total perfectionist too. I took some art classes in high school and I would always finish the project really quickly but then spend days on the details; I always have a hard time accepting that it's okay to fail. It's obvious that you have opinions on areas of psychology that are supposed to be unbiased, do you ever find yourself letting your biases affect your schoolwork or other areas of your life?
ReplyDeleteSometimes I will, at least mentally, then I catch myself. The great thing about psychology, at least all the studying I've been doing over the last few years has helped me to be more open to people, other opinions, and not let the world revolve about what I only think ;)
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