I realized that sometimes as we get older we feel that we need to rush to have some kind of plan whether that be trying to be with someone, finishing school right away/getting a career, trying to have children, etc. In my case lately I think it has been trying to please everyone and not being alone.
My schedule has become so busy lately that I feel guilty when my friends or family wants to see me and I don't have the time but say yes anyway. I found out that sometimes you have to take a few steps back and not always say yes. If you don't take a break or do something for yourself, it can make things worse. For me, it got to the point where it put me behind in school in some moments or I was being pulled in all directions trying to make everyone happy that I became so drained and unhappy which is not okay.
As for the not being along concept, I'v been in relationships over the last few years and have tried being with someone, but I think that I THOUGHT I needed to do those things to be happy which isn't the case. I wondered why I felt so alone sometimes and I realized that maybe I was trying every angle of being happy with someone or thinking I needed to be with someone when sometimes being alone and being happy for yourself can be the best thing. I also realized that it's not the best idea to dwell when something doesn't work out with another person because if you let it, it can make you unhappy and feel bad about yourself when it may have had nothing to do with you in the first place. It's important to remember that just because something doesn't work out with ONE person, it does not mean the end of the world or that you are going to end up along. There have been moments where I have sat there and thought Wow this really hurts, I don't want to date again because I don't want to feel this way again or It must have been me, now it's never going to work out with someone else. We have to go through all of these hard feelings in order to learn and grow more about ourselves. It also helps to remember that if someone doesn't like you or want to be with you, it's their loss because if they can't accept your for who you are then what is the point of even trying to convince them? There is no point! You can never convince someone to like you, be with you, or be your friend. Another great thing I learned was that I AM NEVER alone because I had to sit back and look around to what really mattered in my life. My friends, family, what makes me happy, etc. We are all going to have bad days or days where we feel down but it's important to remember the good things already in you're life and what makes you happy. Glad I finally posted this!
